Birthdays are such a special time in our lives. It is one day where people celebrate us and even those who don’t necessarily like us, are civil. But have you ever wondered about the things to do on your birthday?
Depending on those around you, you may receive cards, gifts and lots of good wishes. You may even get some delicious cakes although it seems people are more oft to give us virtual cards and cakes -like those will fill our hearts and stomachs.
There are also times we may decide to celebrate our birthdays by doing something special such as a birthday party or going out with friends. But sometimes, there is a bit of uncertainty and dread as our birthdays draw near.
At these points, you probably have people asking if you want to do anything and even though, you’d rather not, you almost feel this sense of duty to do something for your friends and family.
You may become stressed as you’re trying to decide on what to do while also trying to forget that you’re getting older.
Well, I think I can help with that. I believe our birthdays would be better when we do things that give us peace and leave us happier and ready to enjoy our special day.
Three things to do on your birthday
If you’ve ever wondered about the things to do on your birthday, then I have a few suggestions for you. I will be the first to tell you that these suggestions are unorthodox and people may think there’s something wrong with you. But I have personally found so much value in these and I hope you do too.
You may also find out that those who teased you may end up trying to do something similar…if they do, be the bigger person and welcome them to having more meaningful birthdays.
Things to do on your birthday – Reflect
As the name suggests, this requires that we set out time to review our life, this could mean the last 12 months or even the last 10 years. It’s a chance to consider the things we’ve done. Both those we did well and those we didn’t do well.
More importantly, it is also a time to learn from the past and chart a course for the future. You will likely need a pen or some writing material for this.
Things to do on your birthday – Retreat
I call this an “uninterrupted interaction with your spirit man”. A time to spend delving into God’s word, praying (in the spirit) and just resting in the Lord.
For my 30th birthday, I saved up some money and went to a small island for a few days. I remember when I told a few friends about this they thought I was going mad. In fact, a few of them didn’t believe me, they thought I was going with a man but I just didn’t want to tell them about this “mysterious” man.
For one thing, they felt like going on such vacations is what couples do. Well, this single girl didn’t think so and I’m so happy I didn’t let their words and my doubt stop me from what became one of my best holidays.
It was such a wonderful time to rest in the Lord. I spent time with God without distractions since I didn’t know anyone and I also did some lovely sightseeing.
The idea of a retreat doesn’t mean you have to travel to achieve it. No! For my 32nd birthday, which I just celebrated, I asked for 3 hours of uninterrupted time to spend with God and I must say that it was a fruitful exercise (I also dozed off a bit but I somehow felt God was okay with that).
Things to do on your birthday – Give thanks
I have written quite a bit on gratitude as I believe it’s a game changer in our Christian race. Apostle Paul tells us to:
“Give thanks in all circumstances for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.”
1 Thessalonians 5:18
I believe that gratitude opens doors for us, it is God’s will that we are grateful, that we appreciate all he has done for us, even when it’s bad, even when we don’t understand it. That we are reminded of his promises that it will all work for our good if we love and trust him. See Romans 8:28
Give thanks in uncertainty, in fear, even if you’re scared of getting older, of not getting married or not having kids. Our loving father has told us:
“For I know the plans I have for you” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”
I absolutely love this verse and I speak it into my life at every turn as it gives me solace and reminds me that God has a plan for each of us and we need to not only trust that it will be for our good but thank him for loving us unconditionally.
Making the most of your birthday
These three suggestions are things I believe you should incorporate in every birthday. This doesn’t mean you shouldn’t have a birthday party or spend time with your family and friends. Not at all.
It just means that before anyone else, your birthday should be a day where you intentionally spend time with yourself and with God. Make it a priority and you find yourself happier and more content.
It’s a time to seek direction on the path before you, to review the last year, and to count your blessings (remember that our blessings could mean the good and bad things that happened), for God can use every circumstance for our good.
Did you make mistakes in the past, were you a mess, living a life of “less”? No problem. God can use that mess to share his message, he can use your failures to teach others a lesson.
The most important question to ask on your birthday
But more than that, I believe our birthdays are a time to ask ourselves this question:
Am I living my purpose?
I believe asking your self this question and answering it, is the best gift you could ever give yourself. This is because a life lived outside our purpose will never be a fulfilled life.
In a worst-case scenario, it could be a wasted life as it will be filled with regret as you recall all the things you could have done but failed to do.
Hey sweet friend, where are you on this trajectory? Do you know your purpose, are you living your purpose?
One thing I would say is that as Christians, we have a universal purpose of living our lives to the glory of God. Basically, we have to ensure that in anything we do, we do it all to the glory of the Most-High God.
But we also have what I call our personal or specific purpose. This is about using the gifts God has given you and being in the place he wants you.
For some of us, he has called us to active ministry, for others, he wants us to live that life at our workplace(whether you’re an accountant, a lawyer, a hair stylist or a fashion designer), in our homes(whether single or married) and even in society (politicians and public officials).
I pray that you have many more beautiful birthdays ahead and more than that, that you never forget to spend that day with God and to also spend it with yourself.
You’re dearly loved. Never forget that.