Can you imagine a life filled with joy, peace and contentment? A life where we make the most of the opportunities that come our way and are not anxious about the problems and difficulties of this world?
If you’re anything like me, you probably want that sort of life. But how do we get it? What do we do?
We can start by refusing to allow life happen to us or become a victim of circumstance. We have to be intentional about our life and what we do.
Walking in joy is not the absence of pain. We walk in joy, in spite of our pain.
The truth is that things may not always go as planned but that doesn’t mean we should give up. Remember that each day is a “…day that the Lord has made; let us rejoice and be glad in it.” Psalm 118:24
One way of doing this, is by incorporating joy and laughter into our lives.
We also need to debunk the myths that say we can’t have fun as Christians much less, as single Christian women.
This list of 20 fun things to do as a single Christian Woman should be sufficient evidence of how we can.
All the Fun things to do as a Single Christian Woman
For all my single ladies (and married ladies who want to join us), here are 20 awesome things you can do now. These activities will not only make you happier but will definitely change your life for the better.
Find time for a retreat
There are two main reasons why you should have a retreat; it is time to find God and to find yourself.
“You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.”
God is always there waiting for us, his arms wide to embrace us but many times we are distracted, looking the other way and missing what he is trying to tell us. Dear sister, we have to go back to God and remain in his embrace. Do you want to know why?
“Delight yourself in the Lord and he will give you the desires of your heart.”
You could take a day or a few days and go to a secluded spot (hotel, resort or some other place with little or no distractions). Spend time getting to know God again and to know yourself.
Part of finding yourself is also making time for you. You have to find time to rest, choose a day to sleep in without any disruptions, get a pedicure, spa day or buy some nice items that you love. It gives you a chance to learn, love and accept yourself.
But there’s a proviso to this (the small print), in pampering yourself, don’t forget to also focus on what matters and don’t do things that will affect you negatively (health, finances etc).
“All things are lawful, but not all things are helpful.” 1 Corinthians 10:23
Attend a free event close to your area
Here’s something most of us have in common, we love free events. You know you do.
So, how about you look out for free or almost free events around your area. It could be a trip to the museum, art galleries, seminars, church events and even food festivals. Check your local directory or ask your friends and colleagues.
There’s bound to be something happening. It’s always a lovely opportunity to learn new things and meet new people.
Throw a small themed party at your place and invite your friends
What is life without friends? Not great! Plan a themed party and invite your friends over. It could be a day event, night or even a sleepover.
It’s bound to be so much fun with lots of food, drinks and games. Definitely, something to do.
Volunteer with a charity you love
It is better to give than to receive. Did you know that giving refreshes the soul? As human beings, most of us want to be part of something greater than us, something that makes a difference. This hunger is not always for positive things but we can channel it for good.
There are so many charities, NGO’s and social initiatives out there, doing good and making a difference(check out this list of top-rated charities). Consider volunteering your time and resources. This could be on a temporary or permanent basis. You choose.
Find something that resonates with you, it could be around domestic violence, sexual abuse, child trafficking, refugees, addictions, animals or even the environment.
Get involved in your community
You may be wondering how this is different from 5. Beyond volunteering with a charity, there are things you could also do within your community. You could promote social activities, join the associations and help them implement changes that will improve your community and livelihoods.
You could promote social activities, join the associations and help them implement changes that will improve your community and livelihoods.
This is something I’ve been meaning to do and I hope you do too.
Start a sport you’ve always wanted to do
Ah! Remember all those new year’s resolutions filled with our plans to take up tennis, volleyball and a bit of basketball? What ever happened?
I know most of us are guilty of this one. We will have to go to the very back of your closets for our cobweb-ridden racket and go play ball.
Have you been procrastinating? It’s probably been a few months (or years) and you still haven’t done it.
Dear Sis, it’s time to take some action. Once you’re done reading this post, I need you to find the nearest place to play and go ahead and set a date.
You can do this!
A really good book gives us an enthralling view into the lives of the characters and the thoughts of the author.
It is a wonderful window into the human soul and all the things that make us tick. Find a few fiction and non-fiction books to read. You could check the all-time bestseller list, Christian and inspirational book lists.
If you are not a big fan of books, try the audio book versions or listening to a Podcast/TedTalks. You will not only increase your knowledge but will also be entertained. A definite win-win.
Learn a new skill
This is not just another post telling you to learn web design or French(though you should :)). No, I want you to learn a new skill but not just any skill or something you read somewhere.
Think back to when you were a child, what was the one thing you wished you could do (not magic tricks, I hope)?
What were those things you wished you knew how to do? I remember being intrigued by gymnasts and people who could do somersaults. It’s something I’ve always wanted to learn. I guess this is the time to look into it.
What about you? It may be sewing beautiful dresses you can wear, painting, sculpting, flying, swimming, skin care, or coding.
Here’s all the permission you need to go ahead and learn. I’m sure it would be an amazing experience. Even if it isn’t, you will always know you took that step and your future self will thank you for it.
Start a gratitude journal
Gratitude is the bedrock of a fulfilled life. It is the cushion that shields us from greed, selfishness and pride.
Gratitude is the bedrock of a fulfilled life. It is the cushion that shields us from greed, selfishness and pride.
When we are grateful and gracious, it’s harder to think of ourselves as anything other than a redeemed child of God who has been saved by God’s grace and mercy.
When we practice a life of gratitude, we find it easier to give honor where it’s due and not to think of ourselves as better than others.
The great thing is that we don’t suffer the burdens of ingratitude, perfection or the superhero complex. We rather appreciate the little and big things and find joy in mundane experiences.
If you want to know how to do this, you can start by keeping a gratitude journal. It doesn’t necessarily have to be a journal. Some of my friends and I keep gratitude jars, which we fill on a daily, weekly and monthly basis. You choose what works best for you. You could also use a phone app for this.
All that really matters, is that you have some way of writing the things you’re grateful for.
“Give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you. “ 1 Thessalonians 5:18
Enrol in an exercise or dance class
Do you love to dance? I know I do and you probably do too. So, why don’t we find time to dance?
There is nothing that says single women shouldn’t dance, it doesn’t matter if you’re in your 30’s, 40’s or 50’s. Dancing is a beautiful activity to pursue.
Research has shown that music stimulates physical activity and dance activates our brain’s sensory and motor circuits. That’s some medical jargon but lovely all the same. Not to forget the added benefit of keeping fit. Definitely, something we should all do.
Try a new restaurant
I’m not sure the world would have been what it is today without delicious meals. What would we do if we only had water and plain bread? I know the children of Israel lived on manna and water for a few decades but this is different.
Do you love and appreciate good food? Then dress up and go try out a new restaurant. Bonus points if you go to one far from your place. It’s an opportunity to experience new cuisines in a different environment.
Go to the beach or the movies alone
Do you have a fear of doing things alone? Always looking for a friend, sibling or colleague to follow you somewhere? Well, it’s time you did certain things alone.
Go to the beach or movies alone. Play in the sand, kick some water around and do all the silly things your inner child will appreciate.
The best part of this is that you can enjoy the inside jokes and laugh with reckless abandon. People may think you’re mad but that’s a small price to pay for a bellyful of laughter and a heart overflowing with joy.
Grow your social network
Look for opportunities to grow your social circles. This may mean attending social functions, getting to meet new people and keeping in touch.
For this to work, you need to follow up. If you’re an introvert, you can start with social media and build from there.
Write an inspirational song or poem
Is there a soulful poet hidden inside of you? Maybe you had dreams of becoming the next Celine Dion or Maya Angelou.
It’s never too late to make the most of your dreams. This is a great opportunity to allow your creativity flourish. Who knows what you will uncover.
Just write. Write something you’ve always wanted to write. It doesn’t matter how corny or unrefined it may sound. Write it and record it (if a song) or publish (if a poem).
Bake a cake
Who doesn’t love a cake? Even when we don’t eat it because of those evil calories, we can’t deny that there’s something soothing about a beautifully baked cake.
So, try it! Bake and decorate a cake.
You get to choose the type of cake, the size and all the lovely toppings you will add. If you don’t have anyone to bake for, you can always bake it for me. I love red velvet and chocolate cakes, in case you were wondering.
But seriously, baking is a useful skill to have and it could be the beginning of a whole new side hustle or hobby.
Do something scary
I’m afraid of heights. When I was in high school, I used to avoid going close to the railing by my class (it was on the second floor).
It took a while to get over this but I usually don’t like looking down when I’m in a tall building. An obvious activity for me would be to skydive. I pray to do this soon.
What about you? What is the one thing that makes you so scared, you literally pee in your pants? It could be public speaking, flying and swimming.
Do you think you can do it?
After all, we do not have a “…spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.” 2 Timothy 1:7
So we have the power to overcome whatever it is that has us shivering and scared. I’m sure it can’t be that bad.
It’s time for us to face our fears.
Do your body and soul a favour, and rest. Never underestimate the need to rest.
Rest here doesn’t necessarily mean to sleep. No, it’s much more than that. It means that we intentionally let our brains rest (no thinking and planning and trying to do a million things in our head), let our mind stop its wanderings and place our feet firmly on solid ground.
Rest means that we realise and appreciate that there is only so much we can do at any period of our lives. That we are and will always remain subject to the will and plans of God.
Rest means that we will avoid falling into a state of worry and anxiety over any difficulties or problems we face but go to God in the stillness, knowing that he’s got our back and will lighten our burdens.
Memorize 10 of favourite Bible verses and use it
Did I tell you that the Bible is the most comprehensive book that was ever written? It has every single thing you can think of – love, hate, murder, envy, sorcery, riches, poverty, miracles and resurrection. It is no wonder we are told that it holds the blueprint for navigating the issues of life.
So, you probably have some verses and books that you love and you go to at certain times in your life.
Let’s take it a step further. Memorize 10 of these verses (verbatim, including the BCV – book, chapter verse) and use it in some way(whether in speech or writing) over the next 10 days.
Choose a day – intentional acts of kindness
I love this one and for good reason. It is one of the fruits of the spirit and something we are constantly told to become. Can I just put it out there that being kind is different from being nice?
Niceness is the world’s version of good while kindness is God’s way. A nice person will do something you want but a kind person will do something you need(even if you don’t want it). I just wanted to reiterate this as I believe it is so important.
If you are giving your children, friends, siblings and those that matter to you everything they ask for, notwithstanding the effect or impact of these things, you are merely being nice. A child whose parents buy them things they ask for will likely grow to be spoilt and unappreciative from their parents’ niceness.
Okay. kindness is about sharing the love and making life better for those around us. When we do this, we also feel better and are likely to get that kindness in return – fate.
Let us be intentional about being kind. We can start today and for the next 10 days, do 10 intentional acts of kindness. Hopefully, by the end of the 10th day, we will become accustomed to some of these things.
Okay, I know that was probably more work than you expected. It wouldn’t hurt to try a few of these and I hope you let me know how it goes.
Seeing as this has been such an exciting post to write, I thought it will be great to add a bonus activity you can do. It’s one of my favourite things to do – travel.
Most women I know love travelling. We spend so much time thinking about it but barely do it. The major reasons I hear are because we don’t have enough money or don’t want to go alone. I need you to save some money and just go. It doesn’t have to be somewhere uber-exotic or that far away. It could be the next state or country. But I just need you to go so you don’t regret never going or wallow in ‘could have been’ moments.
Are you ready for these fun things to do as a Single Christian Woman?
This was probably a long list but rather than focus on its length, how about we start considering the things we can start off with, right now.
What are those things you’ve always wanted to do? Even if it’s not on the list, you can still do it.
The important thing is that you enjoy this season of your life. You are fearfully and wonderfully made and I can tell you that our creator will be glad to see you making the most of your life rather than sitting ‘pretty’ waiting for the “one”.
He will definitely come if that’s God’s plan for you. But, wouldn’t it be better that he comes while you are enjoying the blessing that is this life and he can join you to make the most of all God has given you? I do think it will
All right Sister, go out there and have some fun always remembering who you are and whose you are.