I think many of us were trained to admire people who live for others. The ones who serve tirelessly, who never seem to think of themselves, who are always available when needed. It looks noble. It looks godly. And in many ways, it’s not. In Luke 10, Jesus gives us a shocking reminder that not all service is obedience. The… Read More

In the last relationship secret, we talked about the importance of knowing God for yourself. Your walk with Him cannot depend on your partner’s devotion. But when two people who know God individually come together, something powerful happens: they can seek Him collectively and align their relationship with His vision. Why vision matters in courtship Courtship isn’t just about enjoying… Read More

Have you noticed something universal about humans? We love to correct other people. We are quick to highlight someone else’s mistake and share our solicited (and often unsolicited) advice. In those moments, we play the sage; the voice of wisdom who knows the right way forward. But if we’re honest, there’s an intriguing reality: We don’t always practice what we… Read More

Have you ever been asked, “what do you want in a man?” Perhaps, you may have even asked yourself this question a few times. How did you answer it? Here is what this lady, let’s call her Bisi, listed out as her ideal man: “He has to be tall, dark, handsome, wealthy, spirit-filled, emotionally intelligent, a prayer warrior, financially secure,… Read More

There’s a phrase that’s become popular online: “match their energy.” It simply means treating people the way they treat you. If they’re kind, be kind. If they’re cold, be cold. If they ignore you, ignore them right back. At first, it sounds like good advice. After all, who wants to feel like the only one giving in a friendship, relationship,… Read More