Relationship Secrets, Day 2: Commit to Your Decision

Welcome to Day 2 of our relationship secrets. For today’s relationship tip, I’ll be sharing Susie’s story.

Susie has been single for many years.

She had been so single that when Chike asked her out, she was surprised and didn’t know what to do.

After a few sleepless nights of ‘eenie meenie miney moe’, Susie decided to take it to God.

On the third day of her prayer fast, she felt the heaviness had lifted and had the peace to say yes to Chike.

 

Gosh, you should have been there.

Susie was excited and a bit shy when she finally told Chike, “Yes.” It was an ‘aww’ moment.

 

But just about a month into their relationship, Femi calls.

Okay, I know you don’t know Femi, but Susie used to have a crush on him. He was the guy—you know, the guy that everybody just seems to gravitate to?

He had the ‘je sais quoi—a fine church boy with a bit of a rebel streak. Really nice, but still firm and straightforward.

You don’t want to know how many times Susie dreamed of her happily ever after, firmly ensconced as Femi’s wife.

So, he calls to check in on her, like he does once in a very long while, but this time around, the conversation is different. Femi tells Susie that he likes her and would like to take her out.

What should Susie do?

The Reality of Commitment

Life is interesting, right? Just when you’ve decided to do something, an alternative presents itself, and you question your earlier decision.

The first thing to note is that this is normal.

And it is not restricted to our romantic relationships.

Here’s how Myron Golden puts it:

“Disruption follows intention.”

Basically, the moment you decide on something, there will be forces at work to disrupt that decision.

This disruption may come in different forms. Expect it and prepare for it.

In Susie’s case (and for many of us, for that matter), the guy she’s always liked shows interest after she has agreed to be with someone else.

What are the odds?

Be honest: would you leave Chike for Femi? Would you declare that God has finally answered your prayer?

I’ve heard that commitment is one of the hardest character traits of our generation, as we tend to move from one shiny apple to the next.

Do you agree?

I believe that the issue is often fear that we may have made the wrong choice, so we waver. A part of us keeps wondering if we should also entertain other interests since we are not yet married.

But commitment is a pledge to focus on our choice and only that.

The Bible says:

“A double-minded man is unstable in all his ways.”

James 1:8

This is a powerful explanation of what a lack of commitment does to us.

If you want to keep entertaining other interests, then it will be difficult to give adequate time and resources to the one in front of you. 

If our decision was made in obedience to God, then we must trust that the person we have agreed to date is the person He wants for us right now.

 

PRAYER

Father, I pray for anyone who has struggled in this area and has struggled to fully commit to their present relationship out of fear or uncertainty. Lord, I pray that you will calm their fears and anxieties. I pray that Your cascading peace will fill their heart and strengthen their resolve to not only trust You but to do all You have called them to. Amen

 

All stories are fictional and are for illustration purposes only.