As a single woman in my thirties, I can honestly say that there are many challenges (and opportunities) that come with living the Christian life, in the 21st century.
These include relationship expectations, career goals, and just the dignity of living your truth in a world that expects you to conform.
Some of these challenges are especially heightened when looked at from the singleness lens.
There are some divergences in my realities to those of married friends, they may not always appreciate the level of independence that singleness at a certain age dictates, while I may not always understand the realities of managing a home and a family.
And these differences, if we are not careful, can cause a ripple in the friendship and create a chasm, which can be difficult to bridge.
It may leave us feeling left out or misunderstood, it may also leave us thinking that the grass is greener on the other side.
Knowing these things, I realize that we single women need reminders about the beauty of the life we have now, even if it may not be the life we expected or wanted.
I have decided to share some incredible quotes I’ve come across in the last few years. Many of these quotes are from books, other sites, and the Bible. Do note that the list is by no means exhaustive and someday, I may share a few more of these life-affirming quotes for single women.
Twenty inspiring Quotes for Single Women
I have divided these quotes for single ladies into four categories. I hope they inspire and encourage you, but more so, hope you realise that you are not alone and there are many of us cheering you on this journey called life.
Quotes – for single women who feel lost and alone
“Until you get comfortable with being alone, you’ll never know if you’re choosing someone out of love or loneliness.”
Mandy Hale
“Because true belonging only happens when we present our authentic, imperfect selves to the world, our sense of belonging can never be greater than our level of self-acceptance.”
Brené Brown “Gifts of Imperfection”
“If you’re single and struggling with identity issues, finding a partner will magnify your issues. Again, the magnification may not show up until the shine of “new love” is over, but it will show up. Whatever problems you and your partner take into a marriage get magnified.”
Brené Brown, I thought it was just me.
“When we have our self-worth riding on the realization of something that we can’t control, we put our self-worth in jeopardy. When we say, “this relationship will get better, we just need to get married,” and things get worse after you get married…”
Brené Brown, I Thought it was just me
“Be grateful for your singleness. It has made you strong and independent and unflinching in your willingness to settle. It has protected you from wrong men and forced you to take risks and taught you the value of your own company. It has given you the space and grace to become exactly who you are.”
Quotes (6-10) on sex, relationships, and breakups
“…marriage was instituted by God to be an object lesson to the world of the relationship of a believer to Himself. Each of you will play a significant role in living out this lesson.
“But in its deepest sense, at its deepest level, this primary relationship between husband and wife is meant to be a living witness to others of the love of Christ for His church (Eph. 5:22-23)”
Priscilla Shirer, Fervent
“God’s design is for your sexual choices to accurately reflect your devotion to Him and to reveal the level of commitment you’ve made to a man.”
Dr. Juli Slattery
“Sex cannot ultimately satisfy you. It is merely a temporary glimpse of an eternal pleasure. Sex outside the context for which it was created will only lead to desperation and discontent.”
CIO
“Love is the most powerful force in the world, but when it is blocked it is so painful. But that doesn’t stop it. Ask God to give you the right channel to give your love expression.”
From the Hiding Place
“Oh, let me warn you, sisters in Jerusalem: Don’t excite love, don’t stir it up until the time is ripe – and you’re ready.’
Songs of Solomon 8:4(MSG)
Quotes (11 – 15) for single women seeking to live a purposeful and meaningful life
“Don’t ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who come alive.”
Howard Thurman, Theologian
“There is more to life than increasing its speed.”
Mohandas Gandhi
“What I regret most in my life are failures of kindness. Those moments when another human being was there, in front of me, suffering and I responded…sensibly. Reservedly. Mildly.”
George Saunders, commencement address Syracuse University
“Do all the good you can, to all the people you can, in all the ways you can, and as long as ever you can.”
D.L. Moody
“If God gives you something to do, why in God’s name wouldn’t you do it.”
Stephen King, On Writing
Quotes (16- 20) for single women who have forgotten how to let go and enjoy life
“Laughter, song, and dance create emotional and spiritual connection; they remind us on the one thing that truly matter when we are searching for comfort, celebration, inspiration, or healing; we are not alone.”
Brené Brown
“The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman is seen in her eyes because that is the doorway to her heart, the place where love resides. True beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It’s the caring hat she lovingly gives. The passion that she shows & the beauty of a woman only grows with passing years.”
Audrey Hepburn
“If you really are going to be a happy single, you have to stop treating being single as the annoying time that you pass between relationships and embrace it. Rather than focusing on what you lack, focus on what you have: You.”
Natalie Lue
“The days are long, but the years are short.”
Gretchen Rubin
“May God teach us to believe that to be humble, to be nothing in His presence, is the highest attainment, and the fullest blessing of the Christian life.”
Andrew Murray, Humility
Conclusion
There you have it, twenty inspiring quotes for single women. I hope these quotes remind you to enjoy your life as a single girl and to make the most of life’s opportunities. Here is to living our best life as single ladies.
Hi Chioma. I like your list of quotes. I’m a quote collector. I love the way they capture salient truths in a succinct way. Thanks for sharing. Happy Easter.
Thanks a lot, Salome. I would also love to read some of the quotes you’ve collected.