Relationship Secrets for Christian Singles
Day 1: Decide – will it be a yes or no?
Hello friends, I am excited to share our latest blog series with you. It is titled: 30 Relationship Secrets for the Christian Singles.
Over the next 30 days, we will share daily relationship secrets and tips to help you flourish in your relationship. These tips are helpful for those who are about to enter a dating relationship or have already started dating.
Without further ado, here is relationship secret 1:
Decide: Yes or no?
The fact that we have to say yes to be in a relationship with a person seems obvious but it’s not. Some of us dilly-dally so much that we never really decide.
Rather, the relationship happens to us aka “situationships” and pseudo relationships. This is where you’re not sure what is going on. Moments where you wonder:
Am I dating this person?
What are we?
Should I be dating this person?
It turns into a complicated mess that becomes even harder to unravel as the “situationship” continues.
Thankfully, there is a better way, and it starts with seeking the leading and direction of God. This will help us in three ways:
- Give us the wisdom and discernment to understand God’s will.
- Reveal what we need in a relationship (without getting bogged down by superficial or secondary things).
- Give us the strength and courage to be decisive and resolute.
Why should I seek the leading of the Holy Spirit?
God is the author of marriage and relationships. This means that he has a vision for this area of life.
We go to God first for wisdom and direction to align with his purpose for this area of our lives.
The Bible says:
Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding, in all your ways acknowledge him and he will direct your path.”
Proverbs 3:5-6
It’s easy to read this famous passage and gloss over the principles and conditions embedded within.
As humans, we tend to want to do things our way, especially where our way is convenient and comfortable. We may seek to lean on our wisdom and understanding, which are grossly limited and are often tainted by our emotions and experiences. But clarity and divine direction come when we submit to God.
It becomes easier to obey God’s leading when we recognise that He knows the end from the beginning and nothing takes him by surprise.
You may be saying:
“Chioma, this is all well and good but how do I hear from God, how do I know what he wants for me?”
This is a great question, and the simple answer is – intimacy. We must continually and consistently cultivate our relationship with God.
The Bible says:
My sheep hear my voice, and I know them, and they follow me.”
John 10:27
You become familiar with someone – their ways, their voice and their character – when you spend time with them.
There is no shortcut to knowing God.
Thankfully, this is a journey of learning and obeying.
We go to God because we know who we marry matters. As we continue with these relationship secrets, you will also realise that we need God every step of the way.
My encouragement to you is to start with God at the centre of your relationship.
Romantic relationships are full-time assignments, which means entering the wrong relationship will not only be a distraction but will also take you away from your god-ordained assignment.
It’s vital that we choose well and are clear about who we have chosen.
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